I’ve changed the name to “Love Your-SELF Day” because the original title excluded the couples, and I decided to make it global rather than national.
Whether you are a half (or third, not judging) of a partnership (or team, not judging) – the most important person for you to love is your-SELF!
Think about when the oxygen masks drop on the plane – You have to put one on yourself before you help anyone else. If you pass out and your neighbor needs help, you’re both going down.
Your friendships, relationships, kinships, and acquaintanceships require you to love your-SELF first.
YOU!! Love YOU!!
I have to love ME – I mean really LOVE, not just with platonic musings or irreverent comments in the mirror about the size of my thighs while I think “huh, maybe I am a little thinner today,” but with unbridled passion.
If you do not, WHY? And if you do not, who else is going to?
What’s so wrong with you that you don’t want to spend time with yourself? And if you don’t want to spend quality time with yourself, why would anyone else?
When was the last time you took yourself on a date?
I love to go out with myself – I’m a fantastic date for myself because I can eat as quickly or as slowly as I want; I can leave without a plan and just do whatever I want to do; I can meet new people or not; there’s no peer pressure to drink; and I can be with myself at the end of the evening without any pressure to call me the next day (ha, ha, ha). My pick-up lines to myself are outstanding!!! They work every time!
I’m not lonely when I’m alone. It might be because I talk to myself, and I just love to hear what I have to say 🙂
I find that if I am not spending quality time with myself, I miss me. And I’m so stubborn and independent that I will break up with myself – Sadly, I have broken my own heart by being a complete bitch to myself.
I’ve learned to make amends with myself though, because I love myself and being me so deeply. And I come back to me, with a little more wisdom, patience, and understanding.
I am my own missing piece. I am my own “other half.” It’s ME, right here…look no further. That quest for Prince Charming ends here with a big giant AHA – I was right here all along.
With that kind of love and passion for myself, I have two questions to ask:
- Why would I do anything to deprive myself of pleasure or do anything to beat myself up?
- Why would I want to be with anyone else, especially someone who doesn’t share in the joy of self love?
I’m still working on the answers That’s the “healing” part, and why I’m the goddess of healing – because I’m always healing something!
1. Why would I do anything to deprive myself of pleasure or do anything to beat myself up?
Well, I wouldn’t intentionally today, although I have in the past. I haven’t always loved myself. I do find myself drifting back to some old habits, but with less frequency and with less intensity. Sometimes I accidentally make a decision that is not in my own best interest. I am still human. I have stopped striving for perfection, and that is quite helpful…
When I enter deprivation mode, however, I know that I have broken up with myself. I tend to do that when I enter a woman-man relationship.
2. Why would I want to be with anyone else, especially someone who doesn’t share in the joy of self love?
I am not sure I have a clear answer to that, not when it comes to being with a man.
Fundamentally, the answer lies in procreation (duh), business building, protection…
At this point in my life, I’m done having kids (I love mine); I’m the sole proprietor in my business, and I have my own philosophy as to how to run that; and I’m a tough cookie and don’t need protection. There aren’t too many lions chasing me right now.
So if I throw out the fundamental (archaic?) reasons, what’s left? I understand the logic of it – we humans are social.
The problem is I break up with myself a lot when I enter a partnership with a man – A LOT – There has only been one woman-man relationship that I was engaged in when I did not break up with myself.
I’m teaching myself the “why” and how not to break my heart to be with a man… but it’s really difficult, and the supposed joy and bliss that everyone talks about having when in a coupleship elude me most of the time…
I have joy and bliss when I am with myself.
While I am learning and celebrating the dysfunctional side of myself as well as the glorious beautiful me, I am going to do something amazing for myself on this Love Myself Day….and I’ll take my awesome kids to see the LEGO movie.
I hope you do something amazing for yourself too.