A REAL MAN is almost as rare as a unicorn….I’m a unicorn, and there is only one of me…
How would I know what a real man says and does? After all, I’ve only known 2 real men in my life – Those 2 Real Men set the bar quite high.
Sidebar: I began this post in July – since then I’ve added a 3rd – see below.
One is my brother, so my sister-in-law knows what I’m talking about. He’s a great man. He has recently moved away from our area, and this has shaken me up more than I realized it would. I don’t need to say this just because he is my brother.
The other walked into my life in the most unexpected and extraordinary manner, and we remain faithful friends in our labeless friendship/datingship/relationship type thing, whatever you want to call it.
I avoid putting any male on a pedestal, especially when that status hasn’t been earned.
Many have tried, but they failed at some fundamentals.
A woman (or man, no judgment) cannot just order a REAL MAN and have one delivered…You’ll end up with DiGiorno, and that’s not the Italian you really want to wake up next to.
It’s not delivery. It’s DiGiorno.®.
A REAL MAN gives you a coat to wear when you’re both going outside to the patio to visit before bed, and he doesn’t just hand it to you – He helps you into it and wraps you up like burrito, making sure you are warm.
A REAL MAN makes sure everyone is sleeping and comfortable, and he comes to find you, asleep on the couch – and he lies with you all night.
A REAL MAN finds your face in the dark and kisses you before you go to sleep.
A REAL MAN plays with you. And when you text him to schedule a session, he makes time for you.
A REAL MAN allows and expects you to be yourself, even if you’re silly.
A REAL MAN is much happier when you’re happier…and he tells you that!
A REAL MAN assures you that you cannot fuck up with him 🙂
He still has a lot of catching up to do on “life” because the stress at work and in his personal life is so incredibly all-consuming – It is like the Blob, just taking over everything.
He is constantly fighting the Blob and the work stress – and hopefully soon, life can get back to normal… but the Blob has been around for 6 months.
I have noticed how stress affects this man. He is like me in soooooo many ways.
When the stress becomes too much, the fortress goes up – and all energies go into defending against the enemy and strategically planning the counterattack.
As long as I know that it’s happening, I’m okay with it.
He is a REAL MAN, defending his honor, truth, right to protect and serve himself and his tribe.
The Blob has been all-consuming…sad for me…a house remodel, a new position for me with ridiculously early hours, and more work for both of us:
There hasn’t been a night on the patio in a very long time…sleep-overs are once a month, if I’m lucky…and it’s sad.
Very recently, after I started this post, a 3rd man entered my life. Fortunately for me, Mr. V has stepped in to shine as a REAL MAN in other ways for me.
Champion of hard work and leadership, Mr. V has been my biggest fan during my career shift. Where others have talked the talk, Mr. V has walked the walk.
It’s hard to say if I’ve been burying myself in work BECAUSE of all of the chaos in Captain Amazing’s world or if the chaos in his world has escalated because of my work.
When I recognized that this imbalance between work and personal was not satisfying to me and leaving me empty, Mr. V and I had several awesome talks about what I could do – and that my happiness was of utmost importance.
Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.
Two enormous opportunities happened at work simultaneously, all thanks to Mr. V and the encouragement to go for it.
A promotion, a “show” and full-time work-at-home-once-again status (Dreams come true!)
It’s time to put all the pieces back together to further dominate this dream.
I immediately walked across the street and signed up for Lifetime again!
The sales gal asked me what my goal is: “Do you want to tone, lose weight, get in shape…”
I said, “Well, if we are going to be open and real here, I want to pose in a centerfold by my next birthday.”
She said, “Yess!!! I’m putting that down. You could go do that right now. That’s the best answer I’ve ever had.”
She had a training minion with her – He was gorgeous and learning the software and the sales, and he chimed in and volunteered to be my bodyguard. 🙂
I’m thankful in so many ways. I have a great life, and as always, I’m surrounded by guys I adore – I’m fortunate also that I have REAL MEN in my life too ❤